What are you good at?

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What are you good at? Do you cook delicious meals? Do you dress well? Are you a good driver? Maybe you’re a good teacher (even if you’re not a “teacher” by official title.) Think back to your childhood. Where you good at guessing how many candies where in a jar? Did you lighten up a serious atmosphere with a joke, or let someone know you were there for them when they felt no one was listening?

Get out a piece of paper, or set up a page on your computer to make a list of accomplishments you’ve made in your lifetime. It’s not about money, or status. It’s about what you’ve done while taking in some oxygen here on earth. It’s time you acknowledge it and celebrate!

Here are a few from my list, just to give you an idea of what made me proud at the time:

  • Won Cat-in-the-Hat pillow from Sears! (I was six, and I still remember my mom handing me the phone to let me hear the lady say, “Congratulations! Do you like soft or hard pillows?” and my turning back to my mom, “Mom, do I like soft or hard pillows?” and then parroting, “Soft, please.”)
  • Winning hula hoop contests at “x” and “x”.
  • 25 boy push-ups, done correctly.
  • Making “x” amount of dollars a year.

You get the idea.

The list is for you. If you are proud of the achievement, if it made/makes you happy—put it on the list. I once went to the dollar store. I bought a photo album. When I got to my car, I noticed there was an unused lotto scratcher ticket tucked inside the photo album. I  scratched it and won a dollar! It made me laugh. Who else would go to the dollar store and get a dollar! On my list, I also have my education, money related specifics, and progress I’ve made in areas I’d struggled. What are you proud of? What makes you smile when you look back? Anything goes!

When you have a rough day, pull this list out. If your list is three, four or five pages long, there is no way you’ll stay in the dumps for long!

Savers and Spenders

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Savers and spenders. It could be seen as two sides to a coin. There are those who think having “too much” money is bad, greedy, or evil. There are those who can’t get enough of money—whether by hoarding for status, or in hope that it’ll solve all their problems. Then there are those who could be considered tight-wads by their lifestyle of saving. These are people who can squeeze a nickel so tight, it gives Jefferson a headache.

It’s beneficial to know in which of these categories you tend to land.

By examining the emotions around what motivates you, you can realistically look at a situation and say, “Oh, I see it. The emotion, the small-self, the fear—whatever you want to call it, is afraid that: _________ (fill in the blank) money will corrupt me, I won’t fit in with the crowd, I won’t have enough to retire, even if it takes longer I must keep looking for a better deal. . . .

Consider journaling on your self-talk about money. Or paint, or draw your emotions. Maybe you can sit and have a “conversation” with your money issues. Ask it’s fear. Ask “why?” Ask yourself if you’ve outgrown that old belief — or why you haven’t. Maybe someone long ago told you what may have been true for them, but that doesn’t mean it’s true for you—especially now, as an adult, in your own life. It doesn’t make that person wrong, but it gives you control by your being conscious of what you believe.

Savers and Spenders. Two sides to a coin. What will you do with your half?