Do you know your current thoughts are creating your future experiences?
To the extent we put energy or conviction into our thought, we get a mirrored experience of it. Don’t believe it? Look at your life. What’s working, and what isn’t. Are you bad mouthing money? Are you involved in gossip, or angry about what someone did—even if it was years ago? Maybe you’re not angry, but still wounded by their tone, their actions, or lack of actions.
The best thing you can to do to help yourself is to let it go. Move on. Forgive. Oh no! The “F” word! —It may as well be! No body likes to hear it, and few talk about it. When we forgive, we’re not doing it for the person who upset us. We must forgive because it frees us. As long as we’re the jailer, we have to stand watch over those we’ve imprisoned. Let them go! If their consciousness is truly not a match for your consciousness, the issue will end. If their behaviors continue, it won’t bother you this time around, because you’ve shifted your energy via your consciousness. Or, they’ll just find someone else to be around. That person will either be the new target for upset, or a new teacher, perhaps in a way that is better understood by them than what you provided. Your trouble—or let’s call them a sacred messenger, will find a replacement.
What are you thinking right now? You are planning your future with those thoughts. If they’re not supportive of the good you want to experience, change your thinking now. Ernest Holmes, founder of Religious Science (not to be confused with Scientology or Christian Science) would say, “Change your thinking, change your life.” Over the years, other teachers have used the same meaning to spread positive thinking. “Thoughts become things” and “Energy flows where attention goes” are more recent versions of the same idea.
Be honest with yourself. If you really don’t like someone, don’t pretend there isn’t a problem. That just makes it fester within, and ultimately you’ll have a big blow out, or an eruption—and they may not even be around for it! The first step to move on is acknowledging what’s going on. Okay, you don’t like this person. Say you have to interact with them at work. Keep it professional. That doesn’t mean act fake, or not be true to who you are. It does mean you have the opportunity to look at your beliefs. What does this person trigger within you? What are they a mirror to? If they’re out of integrity, how are you out of integrity? Maybe they blab too much. What’s your communication like? Do you talk about them after work? At work? Do you feel you work hard, and they have fun? What’s the trigger for you?
Once you can find the trigger, see what good is in the situation. Maybe you have a great view out a window at work. Maybe you work Sunday through Thursday and love your schedule. Find what you do like, and focus on that. If you plan to leave your job, focus on the good, knowing that good comes with you to your new employment, and say, “This or something better” for the other stuff. For the stuff you hate—focus on the good you’ll accept. Don’t gripe about the bad performers, that will only put energy on them, and bring that type with you.
Change is cumulative. You have to be part of it. You can’t be conscious for a week, and coast for three. Decide what you want, and claim it. Then stay focused. If you drift, don’t get mad at yourself, just acknowledge you drifted, then get back on track, focusing in the direction you intend to go.