with whom do we spend time?

We tend to mimic behaviors of people with whom we spend time. Did your parents ever reminded you, “You’re known by the company you keep”? I have a friend who recently shared with me his dad would always send him off with, “Remember who you are and what you stand for.” I love that. If you’re hanging out with people who spontaneously spend, or try to keep up with the Joneses, it’s likely that you’ll spend more money. Hang out with people who are frugal, or plan (have a budget) for their big expense. By doing this, you’ll most likely fit into that behavior, at least when you’re around them. 101-ways-to-build-wealth

A study at University of Southern California found along the same lines, the more inward-looking a neighborhood, the higher the likely hood a resident will buy the same car as their neighbor, or outshine the neighbor’s car purchase.

Re-think the attitude, “One more drink on the Titanic.” (The ship’s going  down, so what’s one more expense?) Consider spending time with, perhaps volunteering for those less fortunate. A study at University of New South Wales, Australia found for every extra dollar earned by the people around you, you’ll put .09 cents less into savings. It’s not about dumping the richer friends, it’s about being conscious, and as William Shakespeare put it, “To thy own self be true.”

Another study, University of Pennsylvania professor Martin Seligman, showed that happier employees earn more money. The happier employees aren’t working 24/7. They’re spending time with family and friends. If you’re not fitting into this family/friend love fest, ask yourself if you like your neighbors? Can you meet new friends? It’s about having a supportive network, not necessarily similar genes.


Drop the Grudge

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The word “forgiveness” is such a trigger word in our society. We’re often taught to forgive someone when they’ve done something we don’t like. Does our forgiveness benefit them somehow? Or, does it benefit us? It lightens our load of grudges. We hear, “I may forgive, but I don’t forget.” We forgive people for what they say, think or do (when they’re not in the same camp as us.)

Forgiveness is a shift in energy, and a change in perception. It’s giving up hope of a better yesterday. When we really forgive, we let go—fully let go, and move on. It’s not about keeping tally, being a doormat. It’s about holding that space for someone who slipped, goofed, or just isn’t awake. (That includes us, too.) Forgiving someone who did or does rotten things doesn’t mean you condone their actions, or that you need to hang out with them. It means you free yourself from the heavy weight of judgment and reliving the event every time you think of it. Forgive yourself. Don’t worry about the other guy. Once you forgive yourself, you won’t judge others, because you are working on YOU, not them.

“For every minute of anger, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Wealth of Happiness

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What do you want out of life?”

“I want to be happy.”

If you truly want to be happy, you must be determined to be happy. Even if the sun’s not shining, or the day’s too hot. No matter if someone cuts in front of you in the store line, or your neighbor’s dog is barking—again. You either decide to be happy, or decide not to be happy. The choice is yours.

There are universal laws to support you in all your choices. The universe only says, “Yes!” If you’re sending out a vibration to the world saying, “I’m happy. I’m open to happiness. Bring it on in even a bigger way” the universe responds, “Yes!”

If you’re sending out a vibration of fear, lack and complaining, the universe responds,—“Yes!” You’re in control of how the universe answers you. It doesn’t mean life will always be easy. It means the roller coaster will have fewer extremes.

In the New Testament, George M. Lamsa’s version, Translation from the Aramaic of the Peshitta: Matthew 13:12 “For to him who has shall be given and it shall increase to him; but to him who has not, even that which he has shall be taken away from him.” In the King James Version: “For to him who has more will be given, and who has not, even what he has will be taken away.” This isn’t about a greedy God of wrath punishing the rich. It’s about consciousness. It’s a clear example of the universe saying, “Yes!” regardless of your attitude.

If you have a happy mind, you’ll draw to you more happiness. It’s a Law of Nature. Give as you want to receive. Feeling down? Go out and give people smiles, complements. Feeling like you have no money? Stop the fear—it only perpetuates the feeling of lack. I talk about this often, but right now, look around your house. Go to your refrigerator. (You have one!) Open it. Even if you have one item in it, you have enough money to pay the electric bill to keep the fridge plugged in. Now, look at all you have supporting your existence in the refrigerator. There’ve been times you’ve been so wealthy that you’ve even thrown out food because you haven’t eaten it in time, perhaps you over bought. Go around your house, apartment, or rented room looking for all the ways to prove to yourself how abundant you are. I guarantee by the time you finish this exercise you’ll feel blessed. “Yes!”