Affirmative Prayer. Step 1 of 6. Recognition.

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Prayer isn’t about changing God’s mind, it’s about changing our mind. The Universe only says, “Yes!”

Affirmative prayer has six steps. The difference between affirmative prayer and traditional prayer is that affirmative prayer states things in the positive, present tense. Basically, we’re reminding ourself we’ve already received our good. It’s reminding us to open more, and more will be given.

Before you take in your next breath, you must breathe out. You fully trust you’ll breathe in again. If you don’t release your old breath, you’ll die holding on to the breath you thought would save you. We go into fear of letting go; going into that space of the “unknown.” That’s where the magic is! We can’t receive more when our hands and minds are clutched to ideas, habits, beliefs and things that hold us back. With affirmative prayer, there’s no begging or bargaining with God. There’s no need to so. God doesn’t say,  “You get, you don’t.” God is an energy, responding to us. By letting go in trust, and expecting our good, we receive to the measure we expect.

The first step in affirmative prayer is recognition. How many ways can you recognize God? Pearl Bailey said, “People see God everyday; they just don’t recognize him.” Think of nature. In what ways do you see the power, beauty, and life all around you? For starters, not one person has ever fallen off the Southern Hemisphere—Ever! The sun rises and sets every single day. (Even when it’s raining and we don’t see it because it’s covered with clouds, it’s doing it part in this perfect universe.) The ocean’s tide effortlessly ebbs and flows. Grass grows in sidewalk cracks, and flowers pop- up out of cracked desert rocks. The Divine Intelligence in skunks finds the house with the recently watered lawn to prosper their search for grubs. The list of ways to recognize God is infinite.

How can you be joyful if you can’t recognize God expressing that attribute? Think of an attribute you’d like to enhance (love, health, grace, abundance, joy, success, humor. . .). Relate that attribute to how you can recognize God expressing it. You must first recognize it, then you can experience it. Want abundance? Look for it. If you’ve ever had a pine tree or cat, you know God supplies an abundance of pine needles and cat hair! God is abundance expressing in all areas of life. Look for it. Acknowledge it. Praise it.

This is the first post of five on affirmative prayer.

This or Something Better

This or Something Better

I include in my prayers—especially if someone else is involved, “This or something better.” We don’t have power over others, and we don’t know what “This or something better” really is until it unfolds, and sometimes we never know, based on our vision of “No.” I  pray for “This or something better” especially for the “biggies” when I want to ensure that no thing or no one will screw it up!

It all looks so great when we want our manifestation to be “This or something better.” We never consider a “No” answer could come our way. At least, when we pray affirmative prayers, the focus is on the affirmation, not the possibility of a “No.” This is really to my benefit, because, it gives me something to hang onto when hit by the WHAMMM of “No”—Seemingly out of nowhere. It almost always seems like a horrific butt-kick when it comes back as a “No”, only later to feel the absolute blessing of “This or something better.” Honest.

I look back on relationships faded, not getting “THAT” job offer, and health issues of mine, and others. From what I can see, they all unfolded as “This or something better.” If you’re heart yearns for something, someone, or an experience, try this:

In your prayers, meditations and comments, add “This or something better.” It keeps you open to highest good for all involved. If it’s not good for everyone, it’s not good for anyone.

How to Manifest


Sometimes we fall into the trap of telling God how our manifestation will look in the end. “I’ll meet a single man/woman, who’s a certain age and drives a certain make of car.

Here are three questions to ask yourself:

  • Do I trust God?
  • What do I want in a relationship? (Or whatever you want to manifest)
  • What do I contribute to a relationship? (Or whatever you want to manifest)

Another trap we get pretty close to outlining, but remain vague. “A cute, unconditionally loving blonde who’s happy to see me when I come home, and likes to cuddle in the evenings.” Then, we complain when we’re at home with a golden cocker spaniel in our lap on Friday nights! (cute, unconditionally loving…) Leave the details to God. Stay open,knowing if what you’re heart desires is for your highest good, it’s on its way. It’s God pleasure to please you! The Universe only says, “Yes!” and the happier you are every time It says, “Yes!” The more experiences It will bring you that make you happy – because It’s responding to your energy filed with a “Yes!”

Rather than telling God, I want to work at XYZ, doing ABC, feel the attributes of the company and job you want to experience. Do you want to be respected in your line of work? Do you want to be the one they call when they need a certain job done? Put it all out there—and know that this or something better can come your way. It can happen instantly, and it can take what seems forever.

If you’re consistent with your desire and stating your claim, your good will come your way. It’s up to you to recognize it. The “No” from a top employer in L.A. was hard to take—until I got a job in a like-minded environment in a far more fun, supportive, company culture. During my job search if I’d start to feel sad over not getting “the one” I’d give thanks for not getting it, knowing something even better was on its way—and I could hardly wait to find out what it was! I’d remind myself I was open and receptive to my highest good. This scene has played over and over in several areas of my life. When the dust settles, I’m doing the happy dance! Even if it took me two years to heal a broken heart. . .  Shazam! Oh, it is so worth believing in your dream, yourself, and a power for Good—greater than you.

Go ahead, tell God your plans. Keep some wiggle room for even grander ideas!

New Year’s Peace Meditation

Deepak Chopra begins this 14 minute video talking about meditation, then it goes into music and visuals to watch if you choose to meditate with your eyes open

Happy New Year! Or, is it Happy new here! If you’re tired of loud holiday parties with way too much food and alcohol, maybe you’d like to consider ringing in the new year in a quiet way, full of intention.

There may be a world peace meditation going on near you. It’s set at Greenwich, England meantime 12:00 noon on Jan 1. If you’re on the west cost in the states, it’s true commitment: 4:00 a.m. on Dec 31. You go to bed Dec 30, and wake up super early on Dec 31. If you still want to see in the new year, it’s possible if you take a nap after meditation.

New thought churches are where I’ve always found world peace meditations. If you decide to do it on your own, and perhaps at a different time, you could invite a few friends over who understand the intention you’re setting. It’s a bit of a game changer when someone thinks party, and gets quiet meditation. You can always have breakfast and conversation afterwards!

Whenever and however you do this, don’t get stressed out. Even if you don’t do a full hour. Maybe you can read something peaceful, sing your favorite peaceful song, or put together a vision board with the focus being peace.

If your intention is peace, you can’t go wrong. One new year’s at midnight in New Zealand I lead a small group of us at WWOOF (willing workers on organic farms). Their English was limited—but not as much as my Korean. The lights on the Christmas tree were beautiful—in any language. Somehow we figured it out: I found a globe, and we sat there in quiet, bathing the globe in white light and peace.

Below are some more meditation links:

Prayer Affirmation for Inner Peace

inner peace affirmative prayer

Please take a few minutes to join me in this spiritual, not religious, affirmative prayer for inner peace.

In America, there’s lots of heart ache right now. We’re in the midst of the season of love, joy – the season especially for children. For those who’ve been touched by the school shooting last week — wether in person, or through news, there’s lots of healing to take place. It won’t happen over night, but my prayer is that it will happen.

Below is an affirmative prayer. It’s actually part prayer, part meditation, and part teaching someone who’s not used to prayer or meditation what they can do to bring themselves inner peace. It is only by raising our personal energetic vibration that we can shift the energies around us, the collective consciousness. Thanks for taking the time to read this. It isn’t “religious” but written for all.

There is One power. It is God, the good. This presence of good is in all. There is no separation. We can think we’re separate, we can act as if we’re separate, but God, the good is in us, as us. It is closer than our very next breath.

Just as a drop of the ocean has all of the ocean within it, we have all of God within us. Not one person has more God than another. Some may study or practice It more, but God is within us 100% — all the time —waiting for our recognition and acceptance of It to activate into glorious fulfillment.

When there’s pain or confusion, turn to the peaceful power within. It never left. Things just got noisy and the still, quiet voice was muffled.

Stop. Breathe. Turn off the T.V. or radio. Stop the monkey-mind chatter. Leave your troubles at the door or at your feet. If you want the troubles back when you’re done sitting still, you can consciously pick them up again—or not—because you’ll be of clear mind, and able to decide they don’t serve you.

Look for good. Are you frustrated about how people are driving? Look for the good drivers! Bless them, thank them as you’re on the road together, creating a safe atmosphere for everyone. Look for spots of beauty. Consciously acknowledge it! “Isn’t that a gorgeous cloud!”

Listen to God. It’s speaking to you all the time. The nudge, the gift, the comfort in times of pain and confusion.

Even in incredibly tough times, there are shards of light for which to be grateful. Give thanks. What did or didn’t happen in the midst of chaos? Who was or wasn’t there that made it a bit better. The whys may never get answered. We may need to create our own answers to “why”, or move forward without having them answered.

Let go. When someone dies it’s often like a rope burn. They’ve been pulled from our grasp. We mourn, heal, mourn more; heal more. The memories keep us company. We hope and trust the pain will soften.

Be gentle on you, on others,

Peace. Deep Peace.



If we don’t like a previous choice we’ve made, we can choose again. All events in our lives are ruled by “karma” or “cause and effect”—a term I grasp more easily than “karma.” Deepak Chopra defines karma (cause and effect) as conscious choice making; making a choice with full awareness. When we make a choice, it should nourish us— and everyone else influenced by our actions.

When making a choice, ask yourself : Will this choice bring happiness and fulfillment to me, and to those effected by this choice? Then, listen to your higher self for the answer, and you’ll always make the perfect, right choice. When we’re in conscious awareness, we make right choices.

The choice can be from a personal interaction with someone to using the earth’s resources. It may be a choice about work, health. The answer is always within, and always cause and effect related. It may not scream to us, which is why we need to meditate; listen to the still quiet voice.

I love this link:

 “One-Moment Meditation: “How to Meditate in a Moment”

How the Universe Works

What would it be like to take one day a week and give only thanks in prayer rather than asking forsomething, or petitioning God. No matter what the current outlook, do you give thanks for what is, and for how excited you are to discover the situation’s outcome? Prayer isn’t about “getting” — it’s about change. Changing our consciousness.

When we pray “Oh, God, give me this” or, “Give me this and I’ll do that” it’s not a prayer at all. It’s a business deal, and we’re calling the shots. The Universe doesn’t work like that. Run a perception check right now. Have you been whining about work? Bad mouthing someone? Complaining about money? Is your response to defend all the reasons you hate your job, and the louse who isn’t paying you enough? —And after all, you’re only involved in gossip, back-biting pettiness, because the person is so stupid, or rude, right? NO! You’re partaking in verbal graffiti. There is no justification. It’s up to you to change your thinking, and change your life. Only you can do it. To take from a song, “Let there be peace on earth, and let it begin with me.”

Don’t like the job? Sit down and get quiet. Do you know if this situation is temporary? Is it a stepping stone? A learning curve for you? (It may be a spiritual learning curve, and that doesn’t always show up in the setting we expect.) Are you willing to leave the job, neighborhood or person? Do you believe you’re worthy of the position or situation you want to manifest? Do you listen for guidance? (Do you ask for it?) — If you think that’s an odd thing to write after beginning the post with “Praise, don’t ask” re-read the first sentence: Take one day a week in prayer to praise, and give thanks rather than asking forsomething, or petitioning God. In the Jewish teaching, the Sabbath is a day to refrain from asking God for “more.” The day is meant for expressing thanks to God.

In all things give thanks. Got food? Thank you God! Maybe your home was destroyed by Sandy. Did someone open their home to you? It’s not brushing over tough situations, it’s shining the light on what’s working in your life. The stronger the wind behind the ocean, the bigger the waves. Same is true with our thoughts and perceptions. If we run around taking smack about our life, guess what? We’re creating a storm, and we’ll get more smack to talk about. Oh, no. Don’t want that!

So, turn it around. It’s cause and effect. Make sure the wind behind the ocean is harnessed power, one that will sail your ship in the direction you intend to go, rather than destroy your ship. We never go directly from point A to point B, but if our intention is focused and we stay true to our desires, the detours won’t be as drastic, and many of the adventures will bring us joy along the way.

This brings us back to focusing on what we want to experience. Not as in, “I want this, and this, and that…” but as in, if I want a better job, it serves me well to praise everything about my current job. (Even if you still feel the louse doesn’t pay you enough.) Thank God for an income. Think of anything you can about the job that you like. Is it close to home? Do you have a window with a nice view? As you go through everything you can think of that’s good in the situation, take that “good” energy and feel it. Don’t just go through the motions of making a mental list, and saying, “Thank you.” Our Universe is a feeling, creative one. It picks up on your vibration. If this is dreaded homework, find a way that works better for you. Mostly, stay out of the intellect. That’s where the ego lives. The Creative Mind is the mind of God. It lives in the imagination; the home of possibilities.

One day this week, see how many people, things and events you can hold in gratitude, without asking for “more.”