Drop the Grudge

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The word “forgiveness” is such a trigger word in our society. We’re often taught to forgive someone when they’ve done something we don’t like. Does our forgiveness benefit them somehow? Or, does it benefit us? It lightens our load of grudges. We hear, “I may forgive, but I don’t forget.” We forgive people for what they say, think or do (when they’re not in the same camp as us.)

Forgiveness is a shift in energy, and a change in perception. It’s giving up hope of a better yesterday. When we really forgive, we let go—fully let go, and move on. It’s not about keeping tally, being a doormat. It’s about holding that space for someone who slipped, goofed, or just isn’t awake. (That includes us, too.) Forgiving someone who did or does rotten things doesn’t mean you condone their actions, or that you need to hang out with them. It means you free yourself from the heavy weight of judgment and reliving the event every time you think of it. Forgive yourself. Don’t worry about the other guy. Once you forgive yourself, you won’t judge others, because you are working on YOU, not them.

“For every minute of anger, you lose 60 seconds of happiness.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

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